THE BONHAM LAW FIRM, P.L.

MEDIATION

Not only is David Bonham a family law attorney with more than 20 years experience, but he is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator.  This means that he is not only familiar with Florida family law, but that he has the real life experience dealing with many different kinds of families and many different kinds of issues, all of which he can use to assist you in resolving your important matter.

There are a number of important things to know about mediation.

First, the process is confidential. This means that you cannot discuss anything that is said or occurs at mediation with anyone other than other people who were present at the mediation. This is to encourage everyone to be open and honest and facilitate a reasonable resolution to the problems that your family faces.

Second, mediation is much more flexible than the court system.  If you let the courts make the decisions for you then there is a very narrow range of outcomes because the judge is limited in what he or she can do by the law. By contrast, in mediation you are only limited by what is illegal. You can be much more creative in mediation. For example, if you will receive a benefit by staying married through the end of the year and filing a joint tax return, or if it makes sense for both parties to stay on the employer's health insurance through the end of the year, then you can do that in mediation.  You can postpone the divorce until after the first of the next year. The courts will not do this for you.

Third, and as a corollary to the second, in mediation you can pick and choose what you get and have to live with rather than having to live with whatever the judge decides you get. It is very rare for anyone to get everything they want in mediation, but it is our experience that people are usually happier when they have some control over what they get. Mediation can also save both sides a lot of time and money by avoiding additional depositions, hearings and trial.

If you are anyone you know needs an experienced family law mediator who will listen to both sides and help them be creative in finding solutions to their problems, please contact us. We look forward to assisting you and your family.